''We Haven’t Spoken Since''

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...I knew I had to break up the friendship as it wasn't serving me any longer....

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Hannah, 24

“My friendship with one of my closest friends came to an end when I realized she had no respect for other people's time. She was always the friend that flaked, always showed up two hours later than you had planned and was only ever interested when she needed something from you. One time, we organized wine and cheese at my house and at lunchtime that day, I did the usual check-in to make sure she wasn't going to flake and she confirmed she would be coming soon. I popped to the local shop to get supplies (wine and cheese) and was excited for our catch up that night. I got home and set everything up for her to be at my place by 6 p.m.

7 o'clock came around and she hasn't shown up, which isn't unusual as she was always late. By 8 o'clock I grew worried and touched base with a few friends to see if she had made contact with them. She hadn't. Over the weekend she ignored my messages and was posting on her Instagram stories going out. On Monday she finally reached out and said she was tired that night so she had decided to go to bed instead (!!!). In that moment I knew I had to break up the friendship as it wasn't serving me any longer.”

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It’s allowed me to open myself up to new people

experiences and friendships.

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Lauren, 26

“Losing my best friends of almost eight years was really hard, but it also taught me so much about how people come in and out of your lives for a reason. At first, all I could feel was hurt, rejection and betrayal. How could they give up on this awesome bond we had for so long? But over time, seeing them happy and living good lives, I realized I still had love for them and that I always would. Essentially, our friendship fell apart after living in a shared house together. At the same time that I was going through some pretty serious mental health issues. I realize I would’ve put a lot of pressure on them, and at the time I didn’t feel that I had their support. I moved out, and we eventually just lost touch. I still miss them, and wish the best for them.

It’s allowed me to open myself up to new people, experiences and friendships and I am happy with the people I do have in my close circle. I still regret the way things played out because I know if we had our time over, I would’ve tried harder to maintain our friendship — but seeing them happy makes me happy, and for now, that is enough for me.”

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I needed that friendship to end.

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Blair, 25

“I planned an impromptu holiday with someone I considered to be my best friend (at the time). I thought I knew her like the back of my hand, but being with her 24/7 for a week straight made me realize that we just didn't get along like we thought we did. She yelled at me about random things, wasn't willing to compromise, and got upset at everything I said. I needed that friendship to end, but I was a coward and just ignored her for a couple of months after the trip, and in turn, ignored those feelings for another two years.

“That is until I sent her a lengthy message (one of those messages on iMessage where you need to click it open) setting my boundaries and asking for space. I was met with criticism of my character and everything wrong I'd ever done in the last two years. At least it's over I guess?”

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